It is advice, it's not the whole picture, clearly. In my own little world I have occasional very stressful days. I know sure as shit that if I go to the gym on the way home, most of it gets left there. Maybe walking for hours on a treadmill isn't the answer, if not then try something else. I also know that going home and cracking open the wine and or a family packet of Minstrels doesn't work. Been there, done that, got the sick down the T-shirt.
Seriously,if its giving you this shit,I would have a chat with your G.P.He/she can give you advice on who may be of benefit to you.Make the call!Getting sorted now is important.Dont let it snowball.
Either at work or in an ambulance.. I used to be a real stress head. Short tempered, drove like a lunatic, rushing everywhere. Family business, just the worst. Taking control of work or a job change, if possible because they dont grow on trees these days, could be key. I went from lunatic to fairly laid back a few years ago when I went self employed. No more ridiculous demands, no more thinking about work in the middle of the night. My new approach is even better, combined with wanting less money and new 'things' ... just enjoying life..
Hopefully he’s switched his phone off and is chilling out. There is some good helpful advice in this thread. I have had a very busy 5 years leading up to retirement recently. I found the following all works at sometime, none of which is new: Dog walk, or any walk preferably without human company. Notepad by bed Seeing friends, not too much booze. No spirits Find a kindred spirit in work Make time for family regardless Best, Richard
Been there done that - had the stent fitted in hospital for three weeks and work was still there when I got back ! Work was great but nobody said thank you for nearly killing yourself - Care about work but do it because you enjoy it - not if it stresses you - pm if you want or pop over for a beer - I’ve bern where you are at 39 !!
Cheers gents, appreciate it. All packed for a double TD tomorrow and OOO is on work mails and work phone being left behind.
Today was a better day, it's always better when I'm at work because I can work on things. It's always worse in the head than I'm reality. Stupid thing is compared to most of my mates I got it easy......
I find that when you over think things it does get worse in your head. I find that if you sleep on the problem chances are when you wake up you’ll have solved the problem or at least can see a way through.
I’d recommend reading up on Stephen Coveys, circle of control. Some vids on you tube. Basically: work out what you can control/influence and try to not worry/ accept some stuff is out of your control and focus on that the stuff that is.. my mind is a much better place as a result.
Ahh, the Serenity prayer God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.
True true, i remember back in 70's being a young Dad with all responsibilities that go with it feeling really low and debilitated when not working flat out, this lasted for nearly a couple of years. How the wife put up with me i don't know. I just use to sit and not communicate too much with a tight band feeling around my head all the time. I eventually saw a Doctor and he felt i was depressed and prescribed Valium or Librium i can't remember which, i collected them went home and flushed them down the pan. Knowing that what was the problem was i managed to get back on the right track, i feel for anyone who gets depression/anxiety its not nice and sometimes it is only yourself can do anything about it.
