Having been through a few funerals now ....including organising my wife's one, I would agree with an earlier post ....it's not about the dead it's about the living. I've made it clear that I want everyone to have a good time, food and drink and laughs and throw the ashes in with hers. I always visit my mum and Dads grave when I go home to NZ and take my kids when I can ..... I owe my parents the respect they deserve working their arses off so I could have better chances, and want my kids to have that respect too.
I don’t believe in grave worship eg placing of flowers etc on Bdays and Xmas etc.. Trust me, no one luved anyone like I luvved my Dad but, the way I choose to see things he’s with me everyday wherever I may be and not just In one spot.. And yes, I speak to him all the time. that’s just my way of always being with him.. X
Even worse is the flat balloons, scooter tyres, manky teddies and cans of Stella on some central reservation, or tree.
I used to watch Paul Young when he was lead singer for the Q Tips at The Bridgehouse Canning Town. Steve R
Having had to plan with SigOth her Mothers funeral I assure you a wicker coffin is a very expensive option.
I specified a cardboard box in my will, but I guess they will skyrocket in price too maybe a career change to undertaker is in order to retire rich.....
Wicker expensive!? Its grass FFS. No doubt I will find out for real in the next few days as my Old Mum passed yesterday. It is funny how an idle thread can quickly become very real. Ho-hum, catch you all in a wee while...
You have my deepest sympathies @Bonkers the Dog. Do you have siblings with whom you can share the arrangement making? There are a lot of formalities to go through, which won’t be made easier by “Social Distancing”! And remember, you can always come talk with us when you need someone to insult you or change the subject.
Or as George Best said - "I spent most of my money on booze, birds and fast cars. The rest I just squandered" On a serious note though, I heard that the CMA or similar body were due to investigate the funeral business due to the amount of sharp practice in the sector, but it was put on hold due to Covid.
This came in the post today (not this morning but this afternoon, so either double-round or couldn't get out of bed!) so it's not just Google that are targeting me as not long for this World. Everyone in the town must get this. I think I'm paranoid - that 's a song from my collection but I'll have to look up who wrote it! Just has physio and we had a deep conversation about dying from a heart attack. I do like to look on the bright side!!!
Thanks for all the thoughts folks, very much appreciated. Anyway, feedback. You were right, an extra £600 at the Co-Op for a whicker basket! I almost fell off my chair. Saying that they do look rather nice and you can tell that a fair bit of work has gone into them. They reminded me of hot air balloon baskets, just a wee bit more decorative weaving. What really shocked me was the fee for the local Crematorium, A GRAND, a thousand of your Eeengleesh poons; now I know why Jesus wept! Mother would be turning in her grave if she had one. Can't fault the Co, great service, good people and all for less that £3k as Mother specified. " I dinnae want nae C**T profiteering aff ma corpse when I'm deid!" Quote, unquote. Ah Mother, so poetic....we shill miss her firebrand wit. Due to the current plague you are limited to 12 mourners in the Chapel, all spaced, all masked. They do however, for the modest sum of £25 quid, film it and broadcast it on tinternet. We had folks in Oz watching on line which was nice. So big thumbs up to the Co and I would recommend them to a friend. Nuff said ATB BTD
The funeral service is one of those business models that plays perfectly to human emotions and seriously loosens the purse strings as a result. There is a way round it. Write a signed letter to your survivors and tell them very clearly where it is before you die. With your will, normally. Leave very precise instructions about what you want. This will quell their emotions to the point where it is more important to fulfil "grandads" wishes, rather than make funeral directors unnecessarily prosperous.
