Setting aside the moral issues and legal bollox for one moment? If you had a great friend who is almost a brother or sister and they were being eaten alive by untreatable Cancer - what would be the best and most comfortable way to help ease their pain and send them to a better place?
as above, your time but with sensitivity. You almost certainly know the person very well by now, and their moods when things were normal. Judging how long to stay, what to say, how light-hearted to be when visiting, has a real knack to it now, but just from your post i'm sure that you have it.
every ones different obviously, but if it where me i would want help to plan the craziest theme funeral ever. my sense of humor is a bit out there. so it would be a no holds bard gig for sure.
As above, be there for them. Visit often but be sensitive about staying too long. Maybe arrange something of a rota with others to make sure they are not left too long without visitors but recognise that periods of rest will be needed too. Be sensitive to the situation but try not to be gloomy, try to make sure there is some humour and laughter. Make the most of the valuable time left to you both.
Have you checked what they would like from you ? Having done that I would do all I could to carry out their wishes.
As above , try to put aside your own feelings about dealing with it and just be there for them as it's no doubt a scary and lonely place to be.
I had bowel cancer 6 years ago, I lost my brother to bowel cancer 18 months ago and my mother has it and has just come out of hospital last week after her operation. My cancer was quite advanced and I had to have six months of chemo after, at the time I wasn't sure what the outcome would be but yes I count myself very lucky, particularly with losing my brother who was two years older than me. I had other worries at the time because I am self employed and had no other income and I was off work for twelve months. The thing I noticed most during my recovery was the friends that I thought were my best friends didn't once come to see me, not even a phone call, they would ask my wife if they saw her in passing how I was, but felt uncomfortable to talk to me directly, I was quite happy to talk to anyone that would listen about the illness and symptoms that led up to the diagnosis, I am not the kind of person to bottle things up. I have so much more respect for the few friends that did visit and thank them for their help during a difficult time. Steve
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And on that basis, who am I to advise or comment further? F- knows what I would do in that situation.
Yes - as I said better than my own blood brother.About 20 years ago when he,myself and another close mate were at a heavy drunk an wake - but none of us with serious illness or health problems we made a stupid macho blood pact that we wouldn't let each other die in agony,having his arse wiped by a stranger (I ain't knocking mc Millan cos they are Angles from heaven who do a job 99.9% of us couldn't or wouldn't?).We cut our palms and made a blood oath - it now haunts me
I had exactly the same reaction from people I counted as close friends! I don't see them very often now and feel very indifferent towards them
