It’s without doubt the worst Christmas present my wife and I had ever had. In fact it came early and we’re still unwrapping it. ‘Take a seat, this is the surgeon’. What?...Ohhhh. After the first piece of information his mouth continued flapping but nothing was reaching our ears. So hard to believe when you first start to take it in. The silence, the deafening silence. I know some of you have been there. So many people speak up and have been through it. And what can you do? What can she do? What can I do? Not that much really other than be here to support. Many well meaning people offer help in any way they can but what can they do? You can only put your faith in the surgeons and modern medicine and cross your fingers. Think positive. Here we are, on the eve of commencement of treatment. 18 moths of Chemo. 18 months! A year and a half! Then they operate. Then radiotherapy and various other things. That’s apparently the way they do it nowadays, so they can see how it reacts. Opposite to the way you and I would have thought, what do I know? When the Oncologist said there was something else that had shown up we braced ourselves. “Did you know you’ve got two broken ribs”? We just pissed ourselves laughing. He looked amazed but over Christmas and New Year we’d also had the worst flu bug that we’d suffered in 20 years. It developed into a long lingering cough, cough, cough. My wife had said she thought she’d cracked a rib and held it every time she coughed. I poo poo’d it, ‘Probably just bruised it’. She took one paracetamol two days running and got on with it. Two broken ribs, pah! What a relief. What a crappy fact of life it is. You think you appreciate each other but it takes something like this for you to really appreciate each other. Who’d have thought there was an upside to breast cancer. They can deal with this nowadays and although it’s a journey we don’t relish it’s one we have to go through. I don’t want loads of messages of commiseration and sympathy. Just get out there and ride. Get out there and do the tours. Post some pictures, take us with you. Because life is what happens to you while you’re making other plans.