You are on a very difficult and painful journey both physically and mentally.A well used expression is that with the passing of time,perhaps a long time,things will improve.There will be light,perhaps not the light you were expecting,at the end of the tunnel. Wife,family,friends are all vital,medications can be a problem.Motorbikes are good,even daydreaming about them. All the very best for you,and onwards and upwards,sometimes sideways as well.you will get there.
I do hope you get yourself sorted - next month I'm up for 20 sessions of HBO (hyperbaric oxygen therapy) for my longstanding issues Not sure if it will work for me but I'm going to give it a shot and am lucky that I have understanding employer as u need at least 3 X 1 hour sessions each week - I'm not ready to take prescription painkillers until I've exhausted other avenues !!!
I wish you all the best Char with your new treatment.Hyperbaric treatment has been beneficial in lots of treatments.Lot of research and trials have been carried out in Israel using this protocol. All ready for a spring all day breakfast somewhere,eh.
I'm sorry it's taken 2 years to get somewhere or at least a diagnosis because sometimes you felt like your going mad. I'm positively hoping that your next journey is more successful and that you and your family can start to enjoy life again Keep talking too
Cheers for the support but i still have a way to go yet , my job is on the line due to my symptoms and medication and my recovery physically is still ongoing , but i'm starting to see a little light at the end of a very long tunnel :rage:
Did the psychologist offer any therapy, such as EMDR, which has seen some success in PTSD? It's a cognitive behavioural therapy and used alongside, or as an extension of, CBT and may be available to you through your local NHS. You will need a referral and that can normally come from either your GP or the psychologist (you probably needed a GP/consultant referral to see the psychologist). Have you tried seeing a psychotherapist/counsellor for the depression and anger issues? I'm qualified as a counsellor/psychotherapist with training in person centred and psychodynamic models. These are both very different from CBT but you would probably have to go private or via a charity because there is little chance of being offered anything but CBT by the NHS. I've worked with anger and depression a lot and have had a good deal of success. If you do pursue counselling/psychotherapy route then things you need to keep in mind: - I'm ashamed to say that there are some piss poor counsellors out there so, if you start seeing a counsellor and feel that they are an arse then they probably are so move on. - Not every counsellor is suited to every client and vice versa so, if you feel the counsellor is ok but the relationship isn't working then discuss that with the counsellor. This can often unblock things and get the therapy moving forward. If you feel you've given it your best shot and it's still not working for you then move on. - Not every therapy model suits every client or client issue. If what the counsellor is offering doesn't feel right for you then it probably isn't. Move on but let the therapist know why. - The success of the therapy is basically down to you. If you hold back then that slows the process down. To enable you to avoid holding back you have to really trust the therapist. Any of the above points can torpedo that trust. - If, after all the above, you get into therapy and it feels very uncomfortable then there's a good chance you're on the money. A good therapist will hold you on the edge of that discomfort. An inexperienced or badly trained therapist will try and avoid making you feel that discomfort because it makes them feel uncomfortable. If you want to know more then ask away. Good luck whatever you decide. You're going through a shit time and deserve a break.
H,i thanks for the excellent advice , i have been taking the wrong antidepressants and pain relief for the past year 1/2 .i have been told to start taking Duloxetine or Amitriptyline with a morning depressant such as sertraline or paroxetine + as a pain relief such as pregabalin or gabapentin oh and cognitive behavioural treatment , good job for spell check . but this whole affair has affected my job and now that's on the line due to lack of concentration .:rage:, but i shall keep on pushing on.
I really feel for all the contributors. Wont bore you guys with the details, but know you are not alone, this shit effects at least 1 in 10 of us. Best wishes and luck to all concerned.
One positive to come out of all this is i'm now not afraid to say i'm suffering , and thanks to all the support cheers
Your wrong treatment is not your fault, surely your work should be understanding is occupational health helping you at all?
They have only just been called up by my manager and after Occy health gave them the report confirming everything , but work are still going ahead with trying to get rid of me DHL great company in duty of care issues :rage: they said they haven't had to deal with this before and it's all new to them , me too :rage: Tossers
Your manager has only just called them up!!!! Some manager he is OH were on the phone while I was off after my accident to help find a way back into work DHL need to find a way to deal with it!! What a perfect way to get you to help them integrate those that have been poorly by working with you Jesh at least you are at work there are thousands out there that can't be bothered or use illness to not work DHL should be celebrating your employment
Further to my previous post, find out if DHL have an Employee Assistance Programme (EAP). If they do then this often means that you have access to counsellors and the sessions are free but limited in number. In this instance the referral would have to come from your Oc Health dept. If available, typically you might get 6 free sessions although some employers squeeze this as low as 4 but that's still better than nothing. The free sessions might not be enough but even if they aren't they will hopefully give you a good experience of counselling and that can be enough to set you on a path that leads you out of the mire. It's not an easy path and I can't offer you any guarantee, but for me, it was worth it.
Feel for you bud. Try to remember there's always someone somewhere worse off. On a positive note, I had the privilege to skydive with Al Hodgson, an ex para who had both his legs blown off by an IRA bomb, he was in so much pain he asked a mate to shoot him, he came through and now represents the UK competing against able bodied skydivers, he's an inspiration and testemount to what we can endure and overcome. Stay strong and I wish you a speedy recovery Paratrooper who lost legs is British skydive champ - Mirror Online
Well what a joke DHL you should feel ashamed you asked all the questions got the answers and all the medical evidence , and instead of being satisfied you need more time ....... hasn't 10 weeks been enough, sorry but bollocks to your duty of care time to move on
All I know about this is what you've written, and part of that is that you've got anger issues and I wonder if you decision is a manifestation of that. It's your decision mate and all I'd ask is that you make sure it's not your anger propelling you out the door and making matters worse. I get that you're pissed off, and rightly so, but, if it was me, and it isn't, I'd get everything out of the situation I could and then, if I still wasn't happy, I'd line up something else and go. But that's me doing me.
Hang on in there and make sure they come back to you Don't let them have the easy way out they have a duty of care to you so persue it to the end I know it's hard but you have done nothing wrong except return to work That in itself should speak volumes
