Bless ya. Shit mun, I don't take it personally. My god if I did I could very well be suicidal by now. It's good to hear from you and I hope maybe that you will be able to make it to the next one.
Being on of those described (sorry Jen!) I have also tried to arrange quite a few things thru this site, with very poor actual turnout. Loads of early 'I'm in' for later 'erm, its the dogs naming ceremony'.
Unfortunately life does get in the way of doing things we'd like to. Thats why I very rarely commit to anything as come the day, if I can't or don't feel like going, I feel ive let people down and I don't want to be like that. That said, some things really are worth the effort and if the choice is go to the BBQ or i can't as its fathers day tommorow? I think ya need to reacess stuff. You can do both if you can be arsed. Personally I think it would do a lot of members a lot of good to meet each other. Get to grips with who they are talking to and realise the key board shit is just that. Granted you ain't gunna like every one you meet but that's life. I've not met an idiot yet despite how they may come across on here ( @Exige being the exception )
It wasn't on fathers day was it? I was there and back the next day which I thought was fathers day? I'm not late for work on Monday when it's still Sunday. It kicked off at 3PM.... still get home before it gets dark... I stayed till late too. I'm only 45mins from Ace via Honda express give or take, Derby is not that far.. Fortunately my Mrs is easy going, and we never argue, just communicate. If it's in the diary, we work it out. I am at her Aunts on Christmas because I could not come up with anything first... Last weekend we stayed at Her cousins, they work overseas it was arranged months ago, fine with me. Weekend before we had people over Sat and Sund. We do today....will be here soon, someone cancelled on us a few weeks back, but gave us time to sort something else... all good. I raced, I took her to Paris for her Birthday... Sort the house out. I baby sit while she goes to the gym or work in the evening. I go out Friday evenings, she does paperwork or so she tells me.. every ones a winner. I must just be great in bed or who ever she's screwing hasn't got as much money. I don't ever regret getting married (she might) I was never the type, quite selfish and self centered but she did not marry an angel. I just new it would work, we are partners. If she takes half my money she deserves it and more... She married me because I am who I am, not to change me. She perhaps plans to kill me to pay the mortgage but I've had a pretty good life... My dad was under the thumb, his choice and got shit on in the end but perhaps deserved it.. all those years, he should have had a better car etc (should have had a better solicitor). I do compromise though, I have a 998 instead of a Ferarri, for now. Stopped racing... for now. Part 2. "I've not met an idiot yet despite how they may come across on here ( @@Exige being the exception )" Chiz but you've met me?..... too kind, I don't believe a word of it...oh you mean the "how they may come across on here bit is me!" That's it I'm taking the mistletoe down... Everyone I've met from the forum has been sound and more. I do seem to meet a few idiots out and about, so the good to bad, face to face ratio on here is above average so far Pet hate of mine though > If you don't consider how your actions effect other people It could be perceived as ignorant perhaps, in some cases maybe even arrogant and perhaps worse if you don't care.. I think that's the issue?... perception you don't care, which may not be true in some case but the net result is perhaps the same either way... It's a kick in the teeth to those, who change shifts, buy in food, sort child care, mess their partners around. I try to treat everyone with respect regardless of who they are, until they don't treat me with any. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. If you can find someone who say's I don't do as I say or pay my debts I will surprised... I have friends & family from all over that meet through the year arranged in advance and never an issue, somethings get moved but it's never to the point you are expecting people to turn up but don't.. Non are not couch potatoes We all have things to do it's understandable. There are genuine reasons people for short notice or no shows people understand, then there are BS ones, and most people know the difference and timing is key... we are alll adults it's not rocket science. I never assume the people I know don't have anything better to do, and are happy to sit around waiting hours for me to turn up. They could have gone out on their bike, out for food in that time, what ever... If you don't want expect to be treated like shit don't do it others (that's in the bible I think) you're not that special. Although I'm sure they say two boys should not kiss and that happens so who knows.. Ultimately it's not a reflection on the person sorting the event (good on them for making the effort) it's a reflection on those no showing up but it still effects people. Because in some cases it boils down to, I could not be bothered or had something better to do, which is not that far from, I don't value or respect you enough to make the effort. I think most people who are not self centered understand life's not easy, depression etc, so it's ok to say maybe, or NO! Better than saying yes too many times and then not doing as you say, that's a time waster in my book. I value chilling out as much as doing something but that's not the same as time waiting in for a no show. Not going to the gym etc, telling the mrs to change her plans, or put her mates off. Good luck getting an invite after you do that a few times...which obvious your not going to cry about because you did not care the first time... that's the point? I've invited a few from here over in Jan that I've met before... I might do something at my place this year, but for the reasons above and observations this year, % of things that don't happen. I'm a little reluctant to put an event out there to the wider forum. Call it a self worth thing, because I'm worth it and if you waste my time you are not worth mine.. I will die at young age no doubt from my black and white thinking, so not saying I am right others are wrong, we are all different. I didn't win the lotto so I hope one of you has. Hope to meet some more of you next year... No offence intended if you think I'm a dick, that's cool. I run a business I'm use to it...
I am feel a bit high on tablets right now or it's sleep deprivation, so more stupid than normal... apologies, I will try to refrain from posting for a while.
